Monthly Archive for March, 2007

The Fearful Blogger

Sometimes you read something, and it really makes you think! Like today for example, when Stuart told me about Kathy Sierra’s blog, and how harassing comments and other “cyber bullying” have recently caused her to seek help from police in ending this abuse. Click here to see her site. Be warned however, as there is graphic language and images that are not suitable for younger readers.

When we think of bullying, we normally think about children on the playground. A tyrannical youngster comes to mind, hounding other kids and being cruel by inflicting emotional or perhaps even physical abuse on others. Occasionally, we might think of sexual harassment in the workplace, or even rude comments made by people we may or may not even know. In this day and age of Internet *everything* it seems only fitting that we stop and think about the impact of on-line bullying, as it is happening more and more each day.

Many people equate the anonimity of the internet with the ability to speak freely. Derogatory comments, abuse and threats have become popular methods of communication by intimidation in cyberspace. Manners (or lack thereof) that exist in the *real* world seem to be left behind by many who write for the web. It seems some people feel that they are free to express opinions, make statements and leave comments that they would never otherwise leave, simply because they are “faceless” No one really knows who they are, and accountability is simply not there.

A recent case of high-school students’ commentary about staff members at their school, on a popular on-line blog, ended up in a violent demonstration by fellow students, where police were called in to tame the crowds of angry student protesters. Perhaps this was a case of over-reaction by police, but perhaps it wasn’t. Safety of those whom the threats were made against was not taken lightly, nor should it have been.

I myself have been the target of Internet “badgering” in the past. I made every effort and successfully blocked the abusive individual from leaving further hurtful comments on my blog. Comments that were left by someone who was doubtlessly leaving them to hurt or upset me. While his tactic failed, and I think he has more time on his hands than brain in his head, I was still left feeling quite unsettled by some of his remarks. I suspect that he still visits my blog daily (call it Internet detective work) and am very watchful for any evidence of his return.

Tomorrow is “Stop Cyber Bullying Day” Think about what this means. Never be part of the problem, be part of the solution. Do not say things on-line that you wouldn’t feel comfortable saying to a person face to face. If you see inappropriate comments, or users abusing the Internet do not let them get away with it, report them. The problem will end only when we take action against those causing it.

In the meantime, I am really thinking about my blog, setting up password protected sections, and limiting how much personal information I give out about myself, and especailly my children. Sad that this is the world we live in, but as *they* say “better safe than sorry.” Works for me.

For more information on Cyber Bullying, please click here.

Not So Great Birthday

Today is my 31st Birthday. I kind of wish today had never happened…or maybe, had happened differently. At least the day is almost over, and I can start fresh tomorrow.

The day started very early for me, as I was up at 4 a.m. with insomnia, but I was happy enough to start the day with some quiet time for myself…

We decided to venture up north to visit my parents, and elderly Grandmothers, and share a wonderful home cooked turkey dinner my parents had made, as well as the chocolate Birthday cake that Stuart had made. Up until this point, things were going great. The kids were so good in the car, the sun shone, and I was happy to be out of the house enjoying time with my family.

We really wanted to see my Gramma Katie, who has been very ill lately, and is currently in the hospital. This afternoon, Gramma was given the horrible news that she has cancer of the bladder which has metastasized to her lungs. This very upsetting news was delivered to me late this morning, before Gramma even knew herself. Everyone is devastated as she is so loved by her family and the entire village of Wiarton, who refer to her as “Aunt Katie.” Gramma is 88, but this sort of news is never very easy to swallow, at any age. I was so thankful to be able to see her today. She looked good, despite much physical discomfort. She never has been one to complain, and has always been such a positive person.

Our trip home was “interesting” to say the least. We nearly ran out of gas, just south of Owen Sound. I decided not to stop despite being almost on empty, at what turned out to be the only gas station for miles! Liam complained and Gwyneth cried for the last hour of the drive, rattling our nerves which by that point could have used some quiet and calm. We finally stopped and had “Birthday supper” at McDonalds…yuck! And I thought breastfeeding in public was no big deal! Not a place I would ever choose to do that again! You would have thought I had sprouted an extra head!

So, that’s it in a nutshell folks. Thanks to my friends and family who called and e-mailed well-wishes :-) You made a kind of sad day a lot better.

I think I will just pretend my 31st didn’t happen. Maybe I can stay 30 this year, and skip 31 altogether? That really would be okay with me!

Gramma continues to be the central focus of thought and prayer tonight. I want her to know how much I love her, and am thinking of her…

Outdoor Fun

Spring Day

I don’t know if this face means she likes the weather or not! Regardless, we all got lots of fresh air yesterday in the beautiful sunshine and warm temperature.  After a morning out with friends at Riverside Park, Gwyneth played in her saucer, Liam splashed some toys around in his wading pool, and Stuart cleaned my barbecue for me…what a gorgeous day it was!

Spring Day

It looks like the snow is all but gone, and hopefully, we won’t get anymore surprises there!   I am so looking forward to the warm weather, our upcoming move and new neighbourhood, and coming out of hibernation!  Yay Spring :-D

 

 

 

Canadian Mom Blogs

“These are the blogs I know, I know…these are the blogs I know!” Ok, so if you’re not Canadian, eh, you may not get that reference… hosers.

What a great creative outlet blogging is, and I am noticing a real trend in blogging among many Stay-at-Home-Moms!

Today’s post is short, but sweet. There are countless blogs filling up cyber-space these days, but some of the best ones I have seen are those by other Mothers. Check out this small sample of Great Canadian Mommy Blogs…

SAHMbles

Edeva

My Bountiful Life

Bite the Rabbit

Broiled Scallops Recipe

Scallops

Well…at least there is still cooking (as a hobby that is)

I’ve been feeling the pressure lately to do nothing but pack for our move which takes place in 3 weeks! Ack! Well, frankly my dear, this is no fun at all! Actually, in a wierd sort of way it is fun, but I’d rather be doing other things. Cooking is one thing you can do for yourself (if you’re like me and actually enjoy it) but at the same time, not feel guilty about it because you are doing something for your family too! Brilliant!

I made a nice dinner tonight. Broiled Scallops with Button Mushrooms, Curried Rice with Raisins and Steamed Peas. Lovely.

My husband and I have however, turned into senior citizens, often eating dinner at an extremely early time (um, like 4 in the afternoon!) Then again, when you’re up for the day at 4:45, it sort of throws the whole day off now doesn’t it?!?

At any rate, here is my recipe for the BEST Broiled Sea Scallops..enjoy!

Broiled Sea Scallops

1 Pound Sea Scallops

1 tsp. Garlic Powder

Pinch of Table Salt and Dash of Pepper

4 Tbsp. Margarine or Butter, melted

2 Tbsp. Lemon Juice

Arrange Scallops in a shallow baking dish. Sprinkle with garlic powder, salt & pepper. Mix together margarine and lemon juice, and pour over scallops. Broil in oven for about 8-10 minutes or until they appear whitish in colour instead of opaque. Do not over-cook them though or they will be rubbery!

Spring Fever

Tulip

“Spring Has Sprung, the grass is ris…I wonder where the birdies is!?!”

I think my Mom used to recite this to me when I was little…even now, it still makes me smile!

On the topic of spring, my husband and I have noticed a huge change in our son’s behaviour of late, and are wondering if the cause is the proverbial “Spring Fever” which seems to affect us all at this time of the year. Yesterday was full of tantrums and shouting while he spent much of the day indoors. At one point, a broken banana which his Dad attempted to remedy with scotch tape (do not try this at home people!) was the cause of a level 9 toddler melt-down.

Today, our efforts to spend much of the day outside paid off as his spirits were so much better, and there wasn’t a single tantrum. He seemed to have a very happy day! It was so nice to have him back to his regular old self again. Nothing a little fresh air and sunshine couldn’t fix, eh!

Just what is there to the notion of spring fever anyways? Why exactly does it affect children (dare I say, everyone) in such a profound way? Parents and teachers note a yearly increase in the “Spring Crazies” second only to the sugur-induced madness seen on the days following Hallowe’en! Even animals are acting funny. Our cats are literally climbing the walls, and the Squirels are going nuts for…well…nuts!

Is it because children are so sensitive that they succumb to thier emotions so much more than we do as adults? Perhaps we are all in super-sensitivo mode? I know I for one am extremely sensitive when it comes to the weather. I notice a definite up-lift in my spirits whenever the sun shines. Perhaps all of us in this wacky climate are all so much more affected by the weather than we realise?

Pink Crocs

All I can say for certain is that I am truly thrilled to see the return of the grass, and although it is still brown in colour, I was briefly tempted to run out there in my sandals today. I did not end up wearing my sandals, however I did make an equally poor choice of footwear on our earlier walk to the muddy park. “Holy shoes Batman!” Literally…hole-y…heh! Needless to say, I got just a wee bit of a soaker!

7 Essential Items for the New Parent

Nipple Ball

Becoming a parent for the first time, we are inundated with a list of must haves from friends, family and even the media. I wanted to compile a list of things that were life savers for our family with both of our children. These items may or may not be the same hot items you would list as your favorite Mommy picks, but they sure are mine! I’d love to get feedback from other Moms on their fav’s. Please leave a comment and share your favorite baby essentials!

1. A Nursing Pillow. Most women I know that chose to breast-feed their child found this to be so much easier on their back. A good firm nursing pillow allows you to feed your child by bringing him/her close to your body, easily. When you add up the endless hours you devote to this portion of childcare, you’ll be glad to have a couple of these in the house. One on each floor is ideal.

2. A Bouncy Chair. Perfect for those times when you have to pop into the kitchen or bathroom for a couple minutes and need somewhere portable to just “put” baby. Also a great way to settle a fussy little one! Ours has a vibrate function which seems to lull babies to sleep in minutes.

3. A Baby Swing. I found this to be more useful with our son than with our daughter, but none-the-less a must-have item. Liam would sleep in the swing when nothing else worked. In the early days of exhaustion (um, my second child is five months old now, and I am *still* exhausted, but anyhow…) there were times this was a lifesaver.

4. Exersaucer. These great little devices once again allow baby to be independent and upright, but have nifty little toys built right into the tray! A great place for baby to play when they are starting to outgrow the bouncy chair, but not yet able to sit unassisted. We use ours a lot with our daughter, mainly because laying her on the floor when our toddler is running around would surely spell disaster. This way, she can interact with him from a safer place!

5. A “Nipple Ball” (pictured above) We don’t know what this thing is really called, but that is what we call it in our house. It is a little yellow ball that I picked up from our local baby store for about 6 bucks, that is covered in “nipples.” No matter which way a teething baby with limited hand control turns it, they can still get one of the “nipples” into their mouth. I could kiss whoever designed this thing!

6. A Snuggly. We bought the “Baby Bjorn” variety and is it ever great! Stuart is the designated”baby-wearer”over here. I figure that I had to carry our children for 9 months each, so the snuggly is his opportunity to do his share of the carrying! We also bought a back pack for walks, hikes, trips to the Farmer’s Market…etc. and again, it is a simply wonderful invention. I think kids like to be up high so that they can see everything that is going on in their world :-)

7. Rangehood Fan. Yes folks, you are reading this right. For some reason, the white noise produced by the range hood fan in our kitchen settles fussy babies. Liam had a few months of painful gassy tummy, and the fan worked when nothing else would! The best part is, you already have this in your house! I thought perhaps that I just had weird kids, but we tried this theory out on other people’s children, and the fan always has the same calming affect!

There is nothing *easy* about becoming a parent. The sleep deprivation, lack of spare time, constant feedings, bum changes, crying…the list goes on and on. However, rest assured, these moments will pass so quickly, and you will one day long for this precious time once more.

Here’s hoping that some of the suggestions here help you to transition into the world of parenthood as smoothly as possible!

For That Special Geeky Someone

Glasses

I hate to admit it, but I recently scored higher than my husband who is *ahem* a web-designer on an on-line “Am I A Geek” Test. Oh the shame, oh the humiliation, oh… who cares!!! Actually, if truth be told I think that my “ever so slightly” higher score was due largely in part to the fact that I was both in band and choir during high-school, thus causing an artificially higher test score. We all know that band and choir are sophisticated art forms, and that all those who lack musical talent only wish they were so lucky to have been born with this special gift. Oh, who am I kidding? I am a geek too…there, I said it! However, I would like to point out that I wear glasses, which statistically, doesn’t help me any on the geek-scale. Since doing the test, Stuart now has a prescription for reading glasses too…why don’t you take the test again, then we’ll see! Ha!

Stuart has recently added a store to his web-site where you can buy a great shirt, hat or mug for the special Geek or Web-enthusiast in your life (if you have one!) A great gift idea for Birthday, Father’s Day, Anniversary, Barmitzvah…tee-hee! There is even a baby bib for the Geek-to-be! Great idea!

Stuart is hoping to sell some of his original designs as well. He is a fantastic illustrator, and has done some nifty work in the past, and will be adding some of his own work into the mix in the near future.

Check his site again soon for more exciting new merchandise!

Speaking of stores, I am hoping to have enough of my own creations ready in the weeks to come to post a new “Store” link on my own site! How exciting! Beads, beads and more beads sums it up quite well I think! I’ve been working away happily on my beading hobby (whenever I get a spare moment and am not packing boxes for our move) Stay tuned…

101 Things About Me

I saw this idea on another blog recently, and I thought it was a great way for people to get to know more about me. Basically, I am just going to take the next hour, and write down 101 things about myself.

Whether you read this for pure interest, nosiness, or out of sheer boredom, here are a few things you may not have known about me and may or may not want to read!

1. I am finding it hard to find things to write on my blog lately (obvious perhaps?)

2. I am an Aries.

3. I lived in Toronto for either 5 or 6 years…I can’t remember anymore.

4. My favorite colour is powder blue.

5. I don’t like walnuts very much.

6. Most other types of nuts are fine.

7. Especially almonds and cashews.

8. Salted, of course.

9. Rosie is a bit disruptive.

10. Rosie is my cat.

11. I have 2 other cats as well.

12. I have never been to a resort.

13. I would like to go to one…nowish.

14. I tried Feng Shui in our old apartment.

15. Now, who has the time.

16. I have a small flower garden, and I will miss it when we move.

17. I am not an experienced gardener, but my neighbours think I am!

18. I don’t like March.

19. In fact, I think it is the worst month of the year.

20. February also sucks.

21. October is the best.

22. Mostly on account of the pumpkin patch.

23. And Thanksgiving.

24. And Gwyneth’s Birthday.

25. And Halloween.

26. I love Nova Scotia.

27. Seafood is my favorite (see #26)

28. Scallops rule!

29. Problem is, they are really expensive.

30. And not easy to cook.

31. But, I think I do them okay…

32. It’s 8:34

33. p.m.

34. I wish on eyelashes.

35. All the time.

36. And I believe.

37. I have also wished on a star…

38. Recently.

39. Prayer works as well.

40. I used to be a great speller, but not anymore.

41. I blame my computer for that.

42. And other things…

43. I don’t know what.

44. I tend to ramble.

45. When I am nervous.

46. Or being dishonest.

47. Which isn’t often.

48. Because I am a horrible liar.

49. Which is ok.

50. Most of the time.

51. My house is a mess.

52. My children are both sleeping.

53. Although my baby is stirring.

54. I miss school.

55. Mostly, I miss being younger.

56. And the time that affords.

57. But I am also happy I’m older.

58. Just wish I could stay where I’m at.

59. And not get any older…

60. Than I am right now.

61. I am thankful.

62. But still I want more.

63. Doesn’t everyone?

64. I don’t do sports.

65. And it shows.

66. But, I’d like to run…

67. As I did when I was younger.

68. The ice needs to melt.

69. I am scared of falling.

70. Especially on ice.

71. I miss cross-boarder shopping trips with my family.

72. I’m afraid of Americans.

73. Actually, I’m not really…I just like that Bowie song.

74. And many others.

75. Not so much modern radio though.

76. It all sounds the same.

77. Old people say things like that.

78. I like old people.

79. Nice ones, that is.

80. I have more to say than I thought!

81. I have a sticker fetish.

82. And beads…

83. I love to walk.

84. French Impressionism is not over-rated.

85. It’s exquisite.

86. Everyone can wear hats.

87. Not everyone can wear a Speedo.

88. Myself included.

89. I need a pedicure.

90. The last one I had was before Liam was born.

91. “The Wedding Singer” is a fun movie.

92. I just saw “Super Size Me”

93. Wow!

94. I’ve been to McDonalds since.

95. It’s cold in here.

96. No one knows how to spell my middle name.

97. Or ever even heard of it before.

98. I like Raisins in my oatmeal.

99. And I like Eggs too…

100. Not in my oatmeal.

101. That was fun :-)

Well, there you have it. The mindless ramblings of a baby-brained, sleep deprived, boredom stricken me on a Friday night! Things sure have changed a lot. Gone are the days of being out til 3 a.m. Changing into my evening attire nowadays consists of a night shirt, and fuzzy socks, and a late night beverage is a glass of warm milk!

You know what?!? I wouldn’t trade it for anything :-D

How To Make a Summer Purse

It may be cold outside, but I am dreaming of summer, and sewing up a storm inside! I made this saucy little bag the other day, and it turned out pretty cute (if I do say so myself!) Now, if only we could get rid of this snow, I might actually be able to use it!

Bag Making 101

 

Here is what you’ll need:

About 3/4 Meter of Fabric of your choice (preferably summery print)

Bamboo Handles (available at your local craft and sewing stores)

Interfacing (the kind that adheres to fabric when ironed)

Pins

Thread to match fabric

Scissors and Pinking Shears if you have them (I used both)

Iron

Bag Making 101

First, lay out fabric on a flat surface and determine how large you want your bag to be to. Once you have figured this out, fold either side of fabric in to meet in the centre so that you will only have one seam which will be on the inside. Cut enough interfacing so that it matches up with the outside edges of your cloth, place in centre of cloth with wrong side of cloth facing up, and interfacing facing shiny side up as well. Fold fabric over to meet in the middle, leaving enough for a seam to hide rough edge. Press with medium to hot iron so interfacing sticks to fabric to stiffen it.

Bag Making 101

Next, fold fabric up to form a pouch with top edges of either side flush together, pin outside edges on wrong side of bag, and machine stitch starting at the bottom, working up, leaving about 3 - 4 inches of fabric on each side at top (you will need this excess in order to attach the handles which is quite tricky and must be done by hand!)

Bag Making 101

Once this is done, pin handles to bag by placing handle in front of fabric for each side, and folding fabric forward over handle.

Bag Making 101

Gather fabric as you work with the pins, so that it has a “bunchy” look to it.

Bag Making 101

Once the handle is attached, it should look something like this (minus this odious grey weather of course. Imagine if you will, this purse on a sun drenched day in July, with waves lapping up on the shore of a beautiful beach…

Ok, maybe not…that’s really a stretch…but just try to picture it in warmer weather instead of out in the cold on my back deck where I took this picture!

Finished Purse

It was so easy…you can do it too…give it a try!